15th April 2018
By Dr Wilbert R Mutoko (Life Coach and Senior Pastor @ Leadership Church)
One of the hardest things assigned by God to parents is to raise children. Many people are stressed because of their children. Many people are going through difficult times because of their children. We have quite a lot of people, some that are criminals, and some that are leaving way ward lives because their parents were never there for them.
So, I would like to encourage parents that one of the most important things that you can ever do in your life is to make sure you raise good children. When we look at the Bible, the book of Genesis chapter 18 and verse 19 it says ‘For I know him that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the lord to do Justice and judgement that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he had spoken of him.’
So, we see here that God was so confident that his servant Abraham was going to command his children and his household after him. To train children in God’s ways. Praise the name of Jesus.
Many of us who are Christians say that Abraham Is Our Father, but in many cases we don’t resemble Abraham because as parents we are very prayerful, we study the Bible, we go to church, we go for all night meetings, and we serve in the house of the Lord; but we leave our children at home and they don’t know God. Do you know what the children will be doing outside of Godliness. Hallelujah.
Maybe you weren’t raising children because you didn’t know. I would like to encourage you. There is something called phoneme contraction which entails that while children are still in the mother’s womb they can hear whatever you speak to them which will stick into their subconscious mind. So, while the baby is not yet born, begin to speak scriptures to that baby. Begin to speak good things to that baby. Begin to prophesy to that baby. That means you must avoid hurtful words to the baby.
As the child grows, make sure to grow them in good words and support. It is very very important because when you don’t do that, your child will grow up and it’ll be very difficult to start controlling the child later in life.
Most parents, out of ignorance don’t sit down with their children. They don’t play with their children. They don’t study the Bible with their children because they are waiting until the child is grown up.
But, that will be too late. If you don’t give your children to God, the devil will possess them. He doesn’t wait. While your child is still in primary school or preschool or in high school they get lost. I am sure you will avoid that.
I know some parents don’t believe in God or they are not dedicated Christians. At least, encourage your children to go to church. Encourage your children to seek mentorship from people that are serious with God because it is only God who can change the lives of your children. Proverbs 22 verse 6 says ‘Start children off on the way they should go and even when they are old they will not turn from it.’ Human beings are creatures of habit. Whatever we grow up doing is what we are likely to continue doing even as we become old. That’s why you see there are some immature old people.
Steps to raising good children
Love your children, support them, take care of them. Have time for your children. If you do not, no one else will. Don’t leave your children at the mercy of teachers, friends etc. Try to keep and support your children and avoid letting someone else do it for you. It’s your sole responsibility. 1 Timothy 5:8
Teach your children the word of God and pray with them. Proverbs 22:6. Psalm 107:20.
Lead by example in love, honesty, integrity and trust. Your children will emulate you. 1 Corinthians 11:1
Discipline your children. Failure to discipline your children is failure to love them. Proverbs 29:15 & 17
Avoid angering your children especially unnecessarily. Colossians 3:21. Ephesians 6:4
Father and mother, love each other genuinely. Ephesians 5:22-33
Help children to live a balanced life – academic, spiritual, career, money, health, relationships etc. 3 John 2