Raising Good Children


15th April 2018
By Dr Wilbert R Mutoko (Life Coach and Senior Pastor @ Leadership Church)

One of the hardest things assigned by God to parents is to raise children. Many people are stressed because of their children. Many people are going through difficult times because of their children. We have quite a lot of people, some that are criminals, and some that are leaving way ward lives because their parents were never there for them.

So, I would like to encourage parents that one of the most important things that you can ever do in your life is to make sure you raise good children. When we look at the Bible, the book of Genesis chapter 18 and verse 19 it says ‘For I know him that he will command his children and his household after him and they shall keep the way of the lord to do Justice and judgement that the Lord may bring upon Abraham that which he had spoken of him.’

So, we see here that God was so confident that his servant Abraham was going to command his children and his household after him. To train children in God’s ways. Praise the name of Jesus.

Many of us who are Christians say that Abraham Is Our Father, but in many cases we don’t resemble Abraham because as parents we are very prayerful, we study the Bible, we go to church, we go for all night meetings, and we serve in the house of the Lord; but we leave our children at home and they don’t know God. Do you know what the children will be doing outside of Godliness. Hallelujah.

Maybe you weren’t raising children because you didn’t know. I would like to encourage you. There is something called phoneme contraction which entails that while children are still in the mother’s womb they can hear whatever you speak to them which will stick into their subconscious mind. So, while the baby is not yet born, begin to speak scriptures to that baby. Begin to speak good things to that baby. Begin to prophesy to that baby. That means you must avoid hurtful words to the baby.

As the child grows, make sure to grow them in good words and support. It is very very important because when you don’t do that,  your child will grow up and it’ll be very difficult to start controlling the child later in life.

Most parents, out of ignorance don’t sit down with their children. They don’t play with their children. They don’t study the Bible with their children because they are waiting until the child is grown up.

But, that will be too late. If you don’t give your children to God, the devil will possess them. He doesn’t wait. While your child is still in primary school or preschool or in high school they get lost. I am sure you will avoid that.

I know some parents don’t believe in God or they are not dedicated Christians. At least, encourage your children to go to church. Encourage your children to seek mentorship from people that are serious with God because it is only God who can change the lives of your children. Proverbs 22 verse 6 says ‘Start children off on the way they should go and even when they are old they will not turn from it.’ Human beings are creatures of habit. Whatever we grow up doing is what we are likely to continue doing even as we become old. That’s why you see there are some immature old people.

Steps to raising good children

  1. Love your children, support them, take care of them. Have time for your children. If you do not, no one else will. Don’t leave your children at the mercy of teachers, friends etc. Try to keep and support your children and avoid letting someone else do it for you. It’s your sole responsibility. 1 Timothy 5:8

  2. Teach your children the word of God and pray with them. Proverbs 22:6. Psalm 107:20.

  3. Lead by example in love, honesty, integrity and trust. Your children will emulate you. 1 Corinthians 11:1

  4. Discipline your children. Failure to discipline your children is failure to love them. Proverbs 29:15 & 17

  5. Avoid angering your children especially unnecessarily. Colossians 3:21. Ephesians 6:4

  6. Father and mother, love each other genuinely. Ephesians 5:22-33

  7. Help children to live a balanced life – academic, spiritual, career, money, health, relationships etc. 3 John 2

Stop verbally abusing singles and unmarried


10th January 2018

Reflections with Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

I highly value marriage and I wish all people would be married. But what hurts me is when people look down on those that are either not yet married or will not marry as if they are not people. It is wrong to think like that.

Marriage is great, and I am privileged to be enjoying it. But let me tell you that marriage is not the only success. Even Paul suggests that if one can manage to live without marriage and still stay away fro sin, let them be. There are some single people out there that are happier and more successful than the married folks.

Instead of you praying for those desiring marriage, why do you laugh at them and talk bad about them? Please let us help others rather than discourage them.

If you are privileged to be married (and happily so, hopefully), stop harassing those who are not in your current position. It is unnecessary.

Battles of life

7th January 2018.
Prayer time with Apostle Dr Wilbert Mutoko.
So you thought God has left you because you are in tough battles of life? You are fighting for your health, for your marriage, for your children, for your business, career, school work, parents and siblings, etc.
Jeremiah 1:19 says, “And they shall fight against thee; but they shall not prevail against thee; for I am with thee, saith the LORD, to deliver thee.”
What that means is that God expects you to be strong and courageous. He expects you to make him proud by winning battles of life. So in case you are down right now, I say arise wipe of the dust and the tears. Clinch you fists again and fight until you win against that disease, against those evil spirits, against those challenges. Fight on! As you fight, I see God intervening and giving you the victory in Jesus name. If you are a child of God, I see you win against that enemy in Jesus name.
If you are not yet born again, pray this prayer:
‘Lord Jesus, I know that I am a sinner, and I cannot help myself. Lord I believe that you died for me, and on the third day, you rose again to give me victory. From today I no longer follow the devil and his agents. I now belong to Christ. Lord wash me with your precious blood. From today I am born again. Thank you for saving me.’
Congratulations, you are now born again. Jesus loves you and he wants to walk with you. Get a bible and read it daily and pray. Locate a living Church and begin worshiping God seriously. Stop your old ways and walk in the newness of life.



21st December 2017

With Apostle Dr Wilbert R. Mutoko

So you have no father or mother? Probably your biological father or mother passed away when you were young, your dad or mum ran away, or you have never heard about your dad or mum. Furthermore, probably your parents divorced a long time ago.

I empathize with you if you have no father or mother. It is never easy. People out there may never understand the challenges that you go through without parent(s).

I have got good news for you.

You can still make up for lost teachings, reproof, guidance, and molding that was lost by not having parents. What you need to do is to identify a guardian to learn from. You may need to get closer to any uncle or auntie or any of your relatives that are caring and learn from them. Another way is to locate a genuine pastor or pastor’s wife to fill in the parenting gap for you. Over the years, I have been privileged to be a spiritual father to many people, and I am grateful to God for that. Interesting enough, I grew up with caring parents, but on top of that I realized that I needed mentors to take me to another level. To this day, I have different mentors – spiritual, financial, business, career and ministry. I advise the same for all that want to become seriously successful.

In some cases, you grew up with parents, but you were abused physically or emotionally. For some, you grew up with parents, but there are certain traits of success that are missing in your life; you too need to get closer to a caring person that will parent you to your success.

If you continue without proper guidance, you will end up raising children in the same erroneous way that you grew up in.

The good news is that most successful people in marriage, ministry, business and career are willing to become mentors to others. The sad news is that most people that need mentors either already think that they do not need mentorship, they are okay by themselves; or they look down on themselves and think nobody cares.

Will you take a step today and get someone to parent you?

All the best